Hello. I'm Francois. For more than twenty years I have sat with people who can see the pattern they are stuck in but cannot seem to change it, and more often than not the pattern is older than they think. It started in the family they grew up in.
Picture a mobile hanging above a cot. Little pieces on strings, all connected at the top. Touch one piece and every piece moves. That is a family. When one piece got heavy, a parent's stress, money trouble, old pain nobody talked about, the other pieces shifted to keep the whole thing balanced. A child cannot fix the heavy piece. A child can only change position. So you became the responsible one. Or the funny one. Or the one nobody noticed.
I want to find the position you took. Not to blame anyone, and not to put you in a box. That position was intelligent. It helped you belong. The only question worth asking is whether it is still serving the person you want to become.
So I will ask you some plain facts about your family, then what the house was like, then how you moved when things got tense. Ten minutes, give or take. There are no right answers and nothing here is a diagnosis. Skip anything you would rather not answer. At the end I will show you your position, drawn as your own mobile, and send you a copy to keep.
Much love,
Francois